My post on married men and prostitutes has brought in a significant amount of traffic and feedback. One of the more interesting things that came from the post is hearing stories from women who have caught their husbands cheating on them with prostitutes. So I thought I would write a quick post with tips to see if your husband is seeing a prostitute.
To best catch your husband, it will help to understand how prostitutes work. First off, there are different types of prostitutes. There are your street walkers, your escort agency hookers, the brothel prostitute, and your high-end escorts/companions.
Let’s start with the street walkers. A typical street walker is going to charge between $20 – $100 (typically $30 – $40), and usually perform the act while in a car. Since even scumbag husbands have some level of self-preservation, there is likely to be condoms involved. And that is your first clue. Condom wrappers in the car is an obvious sign that something is up. Also, odd charges on a bank card at a drug store of gas station could be condoms. If you see a charge for gas, and then a separate charge for inside the gas station, you may want to check if they carry condoms, and how much they cost, so that you can compare that to the purchase. Then ask your husband what he bought. If what he says doesn’t match the charge, and the price of a pack of Trojans does, he’s busted.
Moving on to escort agencies, these places take credit cards. Look for any charges for things like “Airport Services”, “Mobile Assistants”, “Hotel Services” or “Massage Service” . And if in doubt, call your credit card company and ask them what type of company made these charges. Believe it or not, the credit card company will sometimes be able to tell if the company is an escort agency.
Also keep in mind the typical charge for an escort agency via credit card is about $300 – $700. If you see a suspicious charge from the same company twice in the same day, that could be an escort agency. Escort agencies charge for having the girl show up to the room. Once there, it’s up to the girl and the client what happens and the cost. They will sometimes hit the card when the girl gets there, and then hit is again for the girls “tip”.
Phone records are also a good indication. If your husband has half a brain, he’s not going to call the agency from his mobile phone, knowing you could see the call. So check with the hotel if any local calls were made from the room.
Brothels are highly unusual, and not likely unless your husband has gone to Nevada, or out of the country. Still, know these places take credit cards as well, and are not as stealthy as the escort agency at hiding the charges. Look for charges of about $500 – $1000.
The independent escort is the more common approach these days. Most advertise on the Web, allowing men to check out the goods through pictures first. These escorts do not usually take credit cards, although some do use Paypal. Usually these are cash transactions. There is a common thought that anyone taking out hundreds of dollars from an ATM after midnight is up to no good. Keep in mind that these girls typically charge around $300, because that’s what men can take out of an ATM at any time. So look for late night withdrawals.
And because these girls are often contacted through the Web, you can often find good evidence through your husbands computer. Check his browser history, and his cache. Search the machine for pictures. Sites like eros-guide.com, or Craigslist.org are the most often paces where guys go shopping for hookers. If your husband is traveling to a different state, check out the local Craigslist for that state on his computer. You should be able to tell if he has clicked the links for the “erotic services” section.
Keep in mind that when confronted, he will of course lie. And when shown 100% proof, he will claim that it was his first and only time. This will be a lie.